Some people show up in life, and you just know that they are there to "stir the Pot." Those are my favorite people.
I know I can hear your concerns! You are asking why I would love the people that want to cause havoc in my life? I know Right? At first and through growing pains I didn't appreciate the value that they were adding to my life. During the moments of causing havoc, yes it hurt. It hurt to have people create lies and stories about my character. It hurt to have the try to slander my name. The most significant hurt came when it affected my kids and my husband. Those pains were hard to stay focused on the lesson. Many times I lost sight of my value and worth in this world. I sat and questioned if I was the person they were telling me I was and telling others around me. I had many conversations with myself about being crazy.
I Read Og Mandino's Greatest Salesman Scroll VI for months working on mastering my emotions during those horrible times. I knew I needed to show up stronger with the pain I was facing, or everything good in my life would disappear. One paragraph I never really understood was:
Henceforth, I will know that only those with inferior ability can always be at their best, and I am not inferior. There will be days when I must constantly struggle against forces which would tear me down. Those such as despair and sadness are simple to recognize but there are others which approach with a smile and the hand of friendship and they can also destroy me. Against them, too, I must never relinquish control.
Og tells us about being overconfident, overindulging, complacency, all-powerful, overly proud and a few others. We also get the counteraction to protect our thoughts from these friendly destroyers. But what about the people that you feel are your family and friends that you can trust?
Those moments are why I decided to love these people instead of feeding them my anger. While facing some significant storms within our immediate family, we relied on some trusted family members and friends to vent or concerns and problems. They were very good at offering listening ears, but when the advice and the direction they felt our life should go they took that gifted information and used it to increase the pain that we were already encompassing really.
It was those people that didn't make me decide not to continue trusting others... Heck NO!! I agree with Brene Brown's research that people are doing the best they can. It was them that helped me step out of the mud and onto my sacred ground.
People can always look from the outside and think that they know precisely what is occurring on in a person's life. They see only the bad and the good because after all, they have lived a long life too. The truth is that these people taught me that I need to be very cautious of my assumptions of others. The reality is that when we assume something we are making an ASS- out of U- and ME. So I am thanking those that assumed they knew what was happening in our family and took it upon themselves to join the mob to try to burn our house down.
If you have this in your world and you are feeling like a victim... I can help. I get you and I know your hard is your own hard and you NEED TO OWN IT!!
I am glad to get that off my chest... Story of failures and success and failures and success and failures and success... I think that you get it! Don't ever give up on creating the passion and potential that lives inside of you a tangible reality to rock your world.