What happens when you feel shame? Have you ever stopped to explore what is going on? I know for me SHAME stands for Scarring Hearts And Missing Experiences. I start to get lost in the fear and the self-doubt of what I am expected to do. I create the story in my head telling me that I am not on the right path and I am not going to be able to create what I want.
But even more intense I start to question my value and what others see in me. I know many times it came through in the ideas around what I thought my spouse thought about me. Shame happened so many times from what I thought external sources thought of me.
I am working on an acronym for how to defend against shame, but through the workings of Brene Brown, I know that to step out of my shame shadow I have to choose to be vulnerable. I also have to let people think and feel what they want as it is a definition of them much more than an explanation of me. I choose to listen to the members of my tribe that I trust because they know my inner and outer workings and the nature of my values and the way I desire to live in this world.
But for now, too I will say that to step into vulnerability you need to Seek Help And Manage Expectations. Please feel free to write to me and let me know how Shame shows up and what you are doing to combat. I would love to hear from you!
I am glad to get that off my chest... Story of failures and success and failures and success and failures and success... I think that you get it! Don't ever give up on creating the passion and potential that lives inside of you a tangible reality to rock your world.